Life...Do you really live yours....or do you live it VICARIOUSLY?

If you've been following my blogs....you know that I am always taking about living life with passion!  I believe it is important to feel everything....even the times that try our very souls. When I create a character, I obviously draw from everything around me.  I am the person that walks into a room and observes....everything and everyone.  From that information, I create ficticious scenarios.  Periodically, I have asked a person if what I have perceived about a situation is correct.  This is where the crazy creative side takes ahold of me.  Creative license allows me to "make-up" everything about the person and the situation. 

It has been my experience that there are many people in this world who stand on the sidelines and live life by watching others.  Fear has absorbed them so totally, that they simply back away with excuses.  These excuses prevent them from doing what they really dream of doing.  They surround themselves with people who are living their dreams wholeheartedly. The outcome of this vicarious life is, in my opinion....completely unfulfilling.  They have some of the enjoyment.... with none of the hard work or feeling of achievement.

What we do with our lives is our responsibility regardless of where we came from or  who loves us.  If we come from a difficult background without the love of friends and family, grabbing hold of our dreams is more illusive because we may never have been taught to reach for the stars.  Without that "pat on the shoulder" once in awhile letting us know that we did a good job....it takes longer to build self-esteem.  That nurturing helps greatly, but if you have never had it...then build your own team of nurturers.

Jump into life and "pray to find your parachute on the way down."  Surround yourself with loving people who see the good in you and believe in you. This gives you the permission you need to let go of your fear.

I know a woman who had big dreams.  I know her so well because, I created her for one of my novels. She grew up without love or nurturing but somehow managed to keep her dreams.  The problem is that she never quite got the "right or wrong" memo and ending up making it big...because of the millions of dollars she made from an illegal activity that hurt a lot of people.  Half of her dream remained intact while the other half took her down the path of destruction.  It was easier for her to emulate the negative people in her life because she observed them with lots of money and lots of influence....until it all ended.  For this woman, it ended badly.  She lived her life vicariously with an alliance to evil.  It took her all the way to......let's just say...it didn't take her anywhere you would want to be....ever.